This is a powerful quote from Matt Haig’s “Reasons to Stay Alive”, and this message resonated with me greatly at this moment. So I have to share this image taken from Lignum Draco again, and practice what it is trying to teach me:
“If you could return to the past to relive a part of your life, either to experience the wonderful bits again, or to do something over, which part of you life would you return to? Why?”
During my teens, I didn’t have a sense of myself and tried very hard to fit in with popular kids as a way to validate myself during this awkward period. I didn’t know who I was and desperately tried to fit in.
In my 20s, I continued and carried the same baggages from my teens with me. I was lost and didn’t have goals set up in my life. The best thing I did for myself around this time was moving from Los Angeles to San Francisco. This decision allowed me to be on my own for the first time and forced myself to grow up quickly and fast. Slowly and gradually, I was able to create my own footprint and creating an identify for myself.
Finally, I was on tracked with both my professional and personal lives in my 30s. I worked hard for my job and felt secure for the first time to enjoy the fruits of my success. However, this happiness didn’t last long and my peaceful life was shattered to pieces when I was around 38. I unexpected lost my partner due to unforeseen circumstances, and I had to be strong to deal with my loss.
Still grieving about my partner’s passing, I also had to take a close look at my career and made changes in my early 40s. Luckily I was able to move to New York City with my then job and it was the perfect opportunity to move on with my life and past.
I had to adjust my new life in New York City fast and it included re-evaluating my career situation, tried to figure out how to stay relevant in a dying industry.
Fast forward to 2015, this year became a turning point for me. I took the whole year off so I could focused on learning something completely different in order to stay competitive and relevant in this job market. I was happy with learning a new set of skills, building projects from the ground up and meeting good people through out this process to enrich my life.
If I could turn back time, I don’t think I would change anything differently. It is my chosen path to experience with love, success, sorrow and failure. Without facing them from the past, I would not be the person that I have become today. So onward with 2016 and I can feel that it will be an amazing year for me to grow and evolve into something better again.
What are your thoughts on aging? How will you stay young at heart as you get older?
Remember this scene from the movie, “Fried Green Tomatoes” where the “young” driver cuts off Kathy Bates’ character, Evelyn Couch, in the parking lot and proceeds to park in the space that Evelyn has been waiting for? To avenge this rude behavior, Evelyn bashes this person’s car and gives us this famous quote, “Face it girls, I am older and I have more insurance,” as a way to remind them that being old has its advantage and it shouldn’t have a “negative” connotation in our youth obsessed society.
I always consider myself having a “young heart” through out my 20s and 30s. However, I become more sensitive about getting old after I turned 40. This year, I also decided to head back to a trade school and took up digital marketing as a way to jumpstart my second phase of career. It wasn’t easy in the beginning tried to transition into something completely foreign to me, especially surrounded myself with a group of 20 somethings in the same class.
I eventually watched, observed and learned from them in the class. Besides the age difference, I finally realized that everyone in this class all shared one common goal; we all wanted to improve ourselves professionally and continued to learn and evolve into something better. Despite being the oldest student in this group of millennials, I actually learned new ways of studying, analyzing, and thinking.
In the end, my age wasn’t a liability trying to start a second phase of my profession, instead, my extensive life and professional experiences made me more confident about making this choice at this age.
If you are passionate about life, yearning to learn something new everyday, and am not afraid of changes, then you are “young at heart”.
Elliot, my pride and joy, is an adorable three pounds Yorkie. Elliot may be a teacup Yorkie, he barks without fears, runs around the house chasing after me with strong determination, and has a doberman’s huge personality to match.
Elliot also has expressive eyes. I melt every time when I see his almond shaped brown eyes trying to tell me something everyday. Like in this picture, he is trying to tell me, “Dad, do you think I look cute with my new haircut? If you do, go and get me a treat, because I deserve one.”
Of course, being a sucker for this adorable face and his expressive eyes, I can’t help it but give him a treat until he looks at me again with this animated look.
Who was the first person you encounter today? Write about him or her.
I am the luckiest person waking up to this adorable image, my dear nephew, Baby Benjamin, and knowing that he is getting stronger, better everyday in his young life.
Baby Benjamin finally gets to go home with his parents after two months staying in the hospital. We are grateful for our miracle baby, who arrived two and half months early, abled to come home and celebrate the holiday season with his family. I am extremely lucky to be his uncle, and proud of his parents for being there for Benjamin through out this process.
I hope that I will learn from you and your young energy starting today. I love your fighting spirit to be stronger everyday, I adore your cute face for putting a smile on my face everyday, and I look forward to watching you evolve into a happy kid everyday.
For this holiday season, I am grateful and lucky to have Baby Benjamin in our lives.
In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “FAQ.”
Interview someone — a friend, another blogger, your mother, the mailman — and write a post based on their responses.
I have friends who are innately fashionable and have their own distinctive personal style when it comes to fashion. They may be ordinary people but they have extraordinary taste. So it was inspiring and fun creating “Most Stylish San Franciscan” blogs and have my friends shared their thoughts from fashion, accessories, food to trends from a native San Franciscan’s point of view. So enjoy these FAQ from Maggie, Rudy and Gordan.
What’s the biggest chance you ever took? Did it work out? Do tell!
I truly thought that 2015 would be THE YEAR to bring prosperity in my life. I believed that it was finally my time to expand my career path, to have my life back on track, and finally to enjoy every moment of my life without financial worries.
But no, right after the new year, everything changed.
I lost my job due to corporate reduction (while this company hired several C level executives overseas few months ago to off-balance this cost).
All of my experience were with heritage luxury companies and jobs were dried up in this field due to rapid market change. I felt hopeless, needed supports from my peers, but several of my past professional contacts never bothered to return my messages for any advices or leads.
Realized that I was stuck in a profession and not heading anywhere, I had to create my own opportunities to jump start a new career path for me.
I was always fascinated with social media and how its impact affects on business outcomes, social behaviors and people engagement. So I went back to school for the first time in more than 20 years and studied Digital Marketing as a way to expand myself expertise.
Majority of my friends were supportive of this change, but some of them were skeptical. One friend felt that I was too late in the game to focus on digital marketing with out any prior experience. This feedback was hurtful but made me wanted to learn even more.
So, I took a chance on myself, but I had doubts about it throughout this humbling process.
I felt defeated often because there were so much new information to absorb and learn. I was out of my comfort zone and wasn’t sure if this was the right thing for me to do.
But I DID TAKE a chance on myself. If I didn’t, I wouldn’t able to re-create, Wang And The City, my personal blog and wrote, Shenanigans, for Blogging 101 to express my thoughts about this topic.
Because I took a chance on myself, I co-created, JPink Boutique, my e-commerce site featuring beautiful women’s accessories with everyone.
I am glad that I took a chance on myself eight months ago so I can re-learn everything about myself. It is an on going process but I am happy with this progress and enjoyed every moment from it. Perhaps I should also thank my previous employer for this. Other wise, I would not have the courage to take on this chance to re-invent my self, (while coyly flipping the bird at them as my way to express gratitude).
Describe your personal style, however you’d like to interpret that — your clothing style, your communication style, your hair style, your eating style, anything.
During my teens, I didn’t have the luxury of buying cloths for myself since I wasn’t getting an allowance from my parents for cloth shopping. I wore basically what my mom bought for me during this period. Needless to say, “style icon” didn’t exist in my daily vocabularies.
In my 20’s, I was driven by anything designers. If there’s a huge designer logo on it, Gucci, Louie, Hoochie, Pucci (well, I made up Hoochie), bring it! The gaudier, the trendier, the better. My style was definitely expensive, because all of my paychecks directly went to designer clothing.
My style evolved and became much more refined in my 30’s. Worked for designers like Giorgio Armani taught me the discipline of being stylish without being showy. I learned that classic suitings, monochromatic sweaters and shirts were timeless items. One could never go wrong with a tailored fit blazer, black or white fitted t-shirt, and plain front tapered trouser as your daily uniform.
My current lifestyle has changed drastically that it is all about comfort and functionality when it comes to my daily dressing. Being comfortable doesn’t mean you have to dress up in a sloppy manner. I still favor my fitted t-shirts, but instead of classic trousers, I opted for fitted jeans or joggers. Instead of blazers or sports jacket, I prefer cardigans, quilted vest, or light weight sweater.
Style comes and goes. At the end of the day, being a “style icon” is about being confident, strong, and healthy to me. I think that having a positive attitude is the best daily uniform in our closet. So wear it loud and proud, being confident, strong, happy is uber sexy!
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